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How to Deal When You’re the Only One Masking – Cleveland Clinic

You’d gotten so used to wearing a mask — to the grocery store, at the gas station, maybe even while enjoying the great outdoors. At some point, it became less of a nuisance and more of a security blanket.

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Now, though, many places no longer require masks. And if you’re one of the many people who’s still most comfortable covered up, you might be nervous about the judgments of others.

“You’re entitled to make choices about your own body,” says psychologist Dawn Potter, PsyD. But because it can feel uncomfortable to be the only masked face in the room, she offers tips for easing your anxiety, responding to nosy inquiries and seeking help if you need it.

The emotional difficulty of unmasking

As the saying goes, “Old habits die hard.” So even if you never wanted to mask up in the first place, you may now feel most comfortable wearing one, even in small gatherings with other fully vaccinated people.

“When people get into a habit of doing something, it can be hard to break the habit,” Dr. Potter says. “That even applies to things they didn’t initially want to do, like masking.”

If you live someplace where masks aren’t required but you want to continue masking, you may feel like the odd one out. But Dr. Potter says it’s natural to feel awkward about acting differently than other people in social settings.

“Humans are a social species, so we have a natural urge to conform,” she explains. “Doing something visibly different from everyone else — like wearing a mask when no one else is — kind of feels like showing up to a fancy wedding in jeans and a T-shirt. It just doesn’t feel right.”

Reasons to remain masked

Even if you’re comfortable without a mask, try to have empathy for the fact that other people’s lives are different from your own. We all live with varying circumstances, health issues and levels of risk tolerance.

There are plenty of reasons people might wish to keep masking up.

    Breakthrough cases: No vaccine is 100% effective, so there is still some risk of getting ill. While the COVID-19 vaccines are highly effective at delivering immunity, breakthrough cases continue to be a possibility — and the delta variant is far more transmissible than previous variants of the COVID-19 virus.Health issues: Some people fall into vulnerable groups for whom contracting COVID-19 could pose additional health risks, or they live with people who do. Whether or not these individuals are vaccinated, they may simply feel safer continuing to mask up.Concern for unvaccinated loved one: Children under age 12 are still ineligible for the COVID-19 vaccine. Because vaccinated people can still transmit the disease, many parents and other caregivers feel understandably uncomfortable with the risk of going unmasked, fearing they may bring the virus home to their kids.Other illnesses: COVID-19 isn’t the only bug to protect yourself from, especially in winter. Wearing a mask can also protect you from the spread of the flu and other viruses. 

And frankly, after more than a year of being told that wearing a mask was a vital health and safety measure, it may simply feel too uncomfortable for you to go without, even in situations deemed safe.

“Masking gave us a sense of security and safety, and we grew so used to them that it may just feel bizarre now to be in a public place without a mask,” Dr. Potter says. “It’s natural to want to avoid discomfort, so many people — even and maybe especially those who believe in the efficacy of vaccines — may just feel more secure in continuing to mask up.”

Remember: Most people aren’t paying attention to you (in a good way)

If you live someplace where most other people aren’t wearing a mask, you may feel like everyone in the room is looking at you — and judging you. But try to remind yourself that noticing is not necessarily the same as criticizing.

“People do take note of things that stand out,” Dr. Potter says, “but that doesn’t mean that they’re all judging you.”

Think about it like wearing a brightly colored outfit or having a zit on your chin: While it may feel like everyone is staring at you, the reality is that most people will simply make a mental note and move on.

“Most people don’t spend a lot of time thinking about what complete strangers are doing,” Dr. Potter says. “If you feel judged by other people, remember that, for the most part, you’re the only one experiencing that discomfort.”

How to respond to inquiring minds

The good news? It’s likely no one will say anything at all. “A lot of times we have this inner monologue of things going way worse than they than they actually turn out,” Dr. Potter says.

But if you’re worried about what people might say, come up with some responses to have on hand. Dr. Potter suggests responses to keep it simple:

    “You might not agree with it, but it’s what I want to do right now.”“This is my choice. I just feel more comfortable this way.”“What I choose to do for my own health is not a criticism of you.”“This is about my comfort level. You make your own choices, and I’m making mine.”

And remember: You don’t owe anyone your health history or an explanation for your choice to keep wearing a mask.

Easing yourself into careful unmasking

Doctors and scientists recommend that we continue to social distance and keep wearing masks in groups and while indoors. But if you’re still experiencing a lot of mask-related anxiety — and continuing to wear a mask during activities largely deemed safe, like talking a walk outdoors — it might be the right time to try to take baby steps toward loosening your personal restrictions.

“Experiment with or ease yourself into taking it off in places where there aren’t many people,” Dr. Potter suggests. Just be sure to bring a mask with you for situations that warrant it.

“Keep it in your pocket,” Dr. Potter says, “You can practice taking it off if you feel safe and are socially distanced. But if there are people around, just put it back on.”

Be kind to yourself — and get help if you need it

While it’s normal to expect some nervousness and anxiety as guidelines continue to change, Dr. Potter says to be on the lookout for hints of mental and emotional distress related to masking. Signs that you’re having trouble include:

    Anxiety that persists beyond 15 minutes of being in a public place.Continued feelings of fear and nervousness about being around others, even in situations deemed safe by doctors and scientists.Ongoing avoidance of public places, even while masked and fully vaccinated.

“It’s normal to feel some nervousness,” Dr. Potter says, “but if that nervousness doesn’t dissipate, it may be time to seek help for an anxiety disorder.” A mental health professional can work with you on your discomfort and help prepare you to safely reclaim some of your pre-pandemic life.

And finally, if you start to feel frustrated by your ongoing discomfort, do your best to show yourself compassion and patience, Dr. Potter says. “Change is hard enough without putting too much pressure on yourself.”

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